Help me choose: gravel bike around €2k

Hey everyone,
I’m looking for a gravel bike and could use some input.

What I’m looking for

• Budget: around €2,000 (broke student, so preferably as cheap as possible… but I’m realistic, so ~2k-ish)
• 2×12 groupset
• Shimano preference because second-hand parts are easy (and cheaper) to find
• Use: mostly (light) gravel, but also winter road bike 
• Bikepacking: Netherlands → Sweden is a plan and will likely happen within 1–2 years, but I won’t bikepack super often
• Since I won’t bikepack that much and I will also be riding road, I don’t mind a more aggressive riding position
• Looks matter (judge me if you want). If I like the bike, I know I’ll ride it more.

Carbon: yeah or nay?

I’ve never owned a carbon bike and I’m a bit worried about long-term durability. I’m hoping to keep the bike, or at least the frame, for many years, ideally way beyond the lifespan of the groupset.
How “fragile” is carbon in real life over the years? Any regrets from people who switched from aluminum?

Bikes I’m considering

Canyon Grizl 7 (AL) – €1,799
https://www.canyon.com/nl-nl/gravel-fietsen/adventure/grizl/al/grizl-7/3715.html?dwvar_3715_pv_rahmenfarbe=R075_P08
Pros: solid value, practical (lots of mounts)
Cons: not in love with the color/looks

Canyon Grail CF 7 (Carbon) – €2,199
https://www.canyon.com/nl-nl/gravel-fietsen/race/grail/cf/grail-cf-7/4149.html?dwvar_4149_pv_rahmenfarbe=R119_P04
Pros: love the look, seems like it could be a fast winter road bike too
Cons: carbon durability worries 

Giant Revolt 0 (AL) – €1,899–€1,999 (depending on year)
https://www.giant-bicycles.com/nl/revolt-0-2024
Pros: seems like a great deal on paper, heard lots of good things, I like the Blue Dragonfly color online
Cons: color looks less good in person (still fine). Also: how much does it actually weigh? Giant doesn’t list it on the site.

Bonus temptation – Bianchi Impulso Comp GRX 610 2×12 (Celeste) (carbon) – €2,495
https://italianbikes.nl/product/bianchi-impulso-comp-grx-610-2x12sp-2024/
This thing looks incredible, but I’m not sure it’s worth the extra money vs the options above.

 Questions

1. If you were in my position, what would you choose and why, any other suggestions?
2. Carbon owners: how has durability been over multiple years?
3. Any specific pros/cons between Grizl vs Grail vs Revolt I might be missing? 
4. Anyone here with experience owning the Impulso?
5. Heard the tire clearance for the grail is more like 45 than 42 is this true?

Thanks!