AS DORES E LIÇÕES DE UMA CRIANÇA IMIGRANTE EM PORTUGAL

AS DORES E LIÇÕES DE UMA CRIANÇA IMIGRANTE EM PORTUGAL

Imigrar com filhos pequenos não é fácil.
Neste vídeo, converso com meu filho de 13 anos sobre a adaptação dele em Portugal, desde que chegou aos 7 anos. Ele compartilha como foi sofrer com colegas e se sentir diferente por ser “o imigrante”.

Falamos sobre os desafios e as lições que ele aprendeu, e deixamos um conselho sincero para quem pensa em imigrar com crianças.

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Hello everyone, how are you? Today I brought my son Davi. Some people asked me to bring him to do more interviews with Davi, so he could talk more about the school here in Portugal, about his experiences, and I promised I would. Davi also likes to talk to you, so I’m just going to give you an explanation of how to enroll your son in school. We arrived in 2019, in March. Davi was 7 years old, he had just turned 7, and he already came with his school record to start the second year. Since the school year here is from September to June , we arrived in March. We got a place at the end of April. He would have the end of April, May, and a few days in June only. So there was no way for him to enter the second year according to his school record. So I talked to the director of the school group. This was there in Coimbra and Davi entered the first year. He would spend almost two months adapting to the language, getting to know his classmates and teachers, and then he would start the second year in September. That’s what we did. He studied the second and third years in Coimbra, and in June 2021 we We moved to Gaia. I enrolled Davi here in Gaia so he could start fourth grade. We moved in June, during the holidays, so he could start in September. In fact, we chose an apartment very close to the school. We believed that he would study at that school, which was close to our apartment, because there was a school close to the apartment. This had a big impact on us closing the deal to rent this apartment. However, after we got the apartment, I went to the school to enroll Davi, but there were no vacancies. So they sent me to a school a little far away. It was about 2 km away. I was very happy because I chose the apartment, a place to live very close to the school. We went to a school further away. I was disappointed. We were sad, but in the end, it was the best thing that happened to Davi. Davi really liked this fourth grade teacher. He uses her as a reference. Davi really liked the school too. He learned so much, which is what he will share with us here. His experience with his friends, changing schools since Coimbra. We have been here for 6 years. He studied second and third grade in Coimbra. the fourth in a school here in Gaia which was in Junqueira fourth fourth fifth fifth and sixth he studied in elementary school and now he went to secondary school it’s the same group but it’s a different building right now he’s in the seventh grade and he’s been studying with some friends since the fifth right Davi now I’m going to let Davi talk about his experience tell me a little bit Davi how it was and since we arrived what have you learned since Coimbra what was it like to face a new school new culture what was the experience like coming from Brazil you studied there since you were 2 years old right and moving to Portugal at 7 years old what was the experience like what did you learn it was a partially difficult experience but it was also a very fun experience I learned a lot of things I developed many sides of myself it was very good for me when I arrived in Coimbra I had some problems with my teacher because of the way she treated me because here in Portugal it’s a little different and my teacher I was always kind of inattentive I would stare at the walls like this my teacher would come close to me and give me a light slap on the head just to just me waking up and not hearing anything, I was very scared and I was full of fear and everything was ready, then it was complicated, and besides that, during the break I only played with some little girls who were my little friends and I thought they were my little friends and at the time I didn’t realize it, but at the time they only wanted to make fun of me, they only played with me, they just stood there, let’s say, making fun of my face, but they were Brazilian, they weren’t Portuguese, two of them were Portuguese, one of them was Brazilian and then they played with me and everything, but then I realized that every now and then the games involved pushing and pulling and hitting and things like that and I could never hit back because I was a man and then it was bad I hit back but hey, it’s part of the process, my little son, I’m only finding out about this now, besides I also had another classmate who was in my class and when I arrived I realized that he was a little jealous of me because I was Brazilian and thought that I was going to steal all his friends. So when I arrived at school he was super famous. I would go up to them and say: “Hey, can I play with you?” He would come over and everyone would say: “Yes, Davi, can you play with us ?” And then he would come and say: “No, you can’t get out of here.” He would say things like that just because, for no reason at all. I had never done anything to him, I had never even spoken to him. And you know, how did you feel like that? You were sad. I didn’t have that. I had it. OK, so I would go anywhere. I would go near the trees, for example. I would go near the plants. I would play in the dirt, for example. By myself, yes, or with those little girls there. But it also happened that after a while, when I was close to coming to Gaia, I had already grown up a little. Before, I was very young and didn’t see anything. But when I was a little older, I could already see that I had already stopped to think and had already developed a little of my human side, right? I was always very passive. I don’t like games, much of fighting. I don’t like hitting anyone. I never get involved in things like hitting. It’s very rare for this kind of thing to happen, but it happened a few times and I realized that I even got a little stronger and stopped being so vain. tell the truth I stopped being so silly because his name was Afonso this Afonso he always scared me out of everything he wouldn’t let me play with my other classmates oh my God I’m going to cry and it was and it was as if he was the super boss he was the leader then if the other friend for example Gaspar if another classmate wanted to come play with me he wouldn’t let him no you can’t go play with Davi you’re going to come here and play with me and I’m sure and what and what did you learn from all this Davi what experience what did you take from what you lived there in Coimbra from Coimbra because if we only focus on the details it will be very long the video Coimbra from Coimbra what I took away was I think it was I’ll say patience I realize that nowadays I’m a very patient person I’m a very calm person I don’t really like to hear people fighting and things like that I think a lot of that was because whenever I was there in Guriu for example my classmates would come up to me and want to play he would say: “Don’t come, don’t come play with us” I said I was going far away you got used to being mistreated yes yes oh my God in heaven poor little thing my son I got used to it but there you go and then when you And then you at first had problems with the teacher and in the end she became a reference too you started to really like teacher Eduarda from Coimbra wasn’t it really right until the other day you said she was the best teacher you had I still say that she was one of my favorite teachers yes she was very demanding she wasn’t Davi was very conservative demanding she was already a lady right those very conservative ones and Davi after that even today from time to time he says he misses teacher Eduarda one thing you must have found very strange because it was very different from there in São Paulo right when you arrived here you were treated totally different right it was very painful this phase this change was very difficult what would you say to the children who are in Brazil and who are coming here now to the mothers what would you say to the mothers I realize that most children are like that It wouldn’t be the same way that I probably would, like most of the boys there, if they came here and there was a boy who was super annoying like that and just said, “Oh no, you’re not going to play with me, anything.” The son would probably also get involved, he would continue playing, he would hit the other boy, he would get involved, ready? I never liked that, so I think that honestly, you just have to realize that it will be different, that at least in Brazil I was treated with a lot of love. I was also there since I was born, in the same school, everything, but when I arrived in Portugal, everyone treated me as if I were just another one, which made sense, in Brazil it was as if I had a family that was my own. school my teachers there were consultants to my family I considered my teachers there as my aunts my second mothers there were very very friendly everything and then when I got here I was just another normal student so when you get here you are treated as just another one and it is a reason for mothers to worry or not what would you say what advice do you give to mothers there who have children of 7 or 6 years old coming here what they should how they should talk to their children so as not to suffer so as not to finally basically the people the school assistants the people who are there are normally people a little older who do not have much patience to take care of little children so it will be very common in the beginning when we are not used to dealing with people like those who raise their voices a lot they shout a lot sometimes they even have some physical reactions they do not hit anyone of course but ok sometimes they even scare a little sometimes they give a little push and everything some tugs I remember very well cases in which some kid was being It’s really annoying that the employee would come, grab his arm and pull it to the other side. It’s part of the process, which is really a little more rigid and a little different. It’s just different. You shouldn’t worry so much about it. You just have to accept the difference because it’s not going to be a new kid, a girl. It’s not going to be a new person at the school who’s going to completely change all the other employees that were already at the school. So if they were already, let’s say in quotation marks, annoying, like that, rigid, they’ll continue to be, and then you’re going to have to adapt to that. But there’s one detail, people. Davi never complained to me about that, okay? He never complained about the employees. The only problem I noticed with the school was with the teacher, because she pushed Davi’s head and said: “Work!” And Davi couldn’t stand it. So I went there and talked to the teacher. I told the teacher that Davi was adapting. I asked her not to do that anymore, but that was the only time. And after that, Davi, the teacher understood Davi’s problem and helped a lot too. The teacher never did that again. and Davi, so much so that he just said here that she is one of his favorite teachers, so it’s a question of culture, of adapting to the culture, right? The teacher didn’t mean any harm, she didn’t mean any harm, no one meant any harm, but it’s not, you don’t expect to be treated the way you are treated in Brazil, right? It’s accepting differences, isn’t that right? Davi, it’s just a funny curiosity here: when all this happened, my mother, she was talking at school for a short period of time, maybe a long time, I don’t know, about three months or something like that. The teacher was a little upset with me. It was funny. After a while, she started to cooperate. She started to grow up. I even started to like her a lot and everything, but before she had kept it there as a grudge, as if I were a kid in quotation marks, as they say here in Portugal, Zé Queixinhas. What in Brazil is X9, in which I hadn’t done anything. I had practically done nothing and I had already gone to tell my mother. So much so that there were some times when I was there in the classroom and I was distracted. She would say Davi and then I would say hi, hi, hi, she would say yes, now now I I have to call you from far away, right? Because I can’t touch you. It’s the golden kid. It’s the golden kid. You can’t touch him. He’s made of crystal. She took a while to say that. She was a little upset, but anyway. Then I moved to Vila Nova de Gaia and went to the Juncaira school, which is a school where I honestly learned a lot from there. But I think that one of the biggest lessons I learned from there was that I was saying that I learned a lot from which I stopped being so silly in Coimbra, but in Coimbra it was more patience because I stopped being silly in Junqueira, where I had already done judo for a while in Brazil and I didn’t really like those ideas. But after that I never wanted to get involved in things like that again. Because I would go to judo tournaments and say to my little friend who was beating me: “No, no, let’s stop. What are you fighting for?” Since it was the sport that I I was practicing at the time and it was incredible. I really didn’t like it at all and I still don’t like it today, but in Vila Nova de Gaia and in Junqueira I developed this side a lot because in my class , most of the games during breaks, even during lunch break, which is the longest break, were known as war time, in which the little boys from the third and second years would get together against the boys from the fourth year. At the time, I was in the fourth year and then they would basically fight, as they say here, they would just beat each other up, but it wasn’t to hurt each other, it wasn’t out of malice, it was just to really play, it was like tag, or tag, but basically that was what it was, it was UFC, but I also had a classmate who was David Pinto, who had a different ethnicity from the others. He really was from a different ethnicity, I don’t think he even had a totally different religious culture. He was a gypsy, which wasn’t bad at all, but he was known as if he were the devil of School was really bad, and at the beginning of the year I went and got close to him because he was the first person to welcome me and I spent a lot of time with him and I realized that even my teacher, teacher Cristina, who is really my favorite teacher since I arrived in Portugal, I identified a lot with her and everything. She forbade me from spending breaks with him because she realized what a cute kid I was and that I didn’t like fights or anything. I started hanging out with David and then I started becoming a bit of a part of life. I was being influenced and it’s that thing of “tell me who you love and I’ll tell you who you are.” It was basically that too. I didn’t know that the teacher had forbidden it. I was getting together a lot with him and I spent all my time with him and I was starting to have the violent games that he had, like for example, for no reason, yes, like for example, for no reason at all, starting to push others for no reason at all, tripping someone up, sometimes saying ugly things to each other, things like that, swearing at little girls and things like that because, well, The teacher realized that I was not a person like that who was being influenced and even forbade me from being with him, but after that I had things like that with other classmates, but one of the things that I also experienced the most there were very different things, for example, I had a friend who had some family problems, João, and he was my best friend who was very similar to me. I felt very sorry for him, we always thought about the same things, we had the same jokes, we always thought about the same thing, everything was very close, we had a lot of ready connections, we liked each other a lot and that was it. Oh, I started hanging out with him a lot and he also always had some things like that. He also had a family that lived in England and then there were times when he didn’t go to school, just like David Pinto, who, as he had different concepts religiously ready, saw school as something not so important. David, that is, he would only arrive at school, for example, if it started at 8:30, he would arrive at school like 10 in the morning, things like that, he would arrive very late and then he would just leave at any time, he would miss most of the classes, that’s why in the fifth year I left. of being in his class because in the fifth grade he repeated the damage because he missed many times and that’s it, in short, that year my biggest learning was physical learning, my physical side, my side of defending myself physically from things and people that appeared in front of me, which had even become what they called an army there, it was a joke there that was the little group there and then each one had to do something they invented who knows who to come out as the human shield and then there was the other one there who would take things from afar, take leaves, soil everything in the fifth grade no in the fourth grade everything went out everything went out the joke quiliza Davi uh what I also had to learn is that you can’t always trust everyone and also that sometimes it is important, even if you don’t like to fight and these things to know how to defend yourself because I really, really want to I had a crush and didn’t know much about anything. In my head, I thought I knew a lot about Fener. I thought that if someone came up to me, I would know a lot about anything, but you never got hit, never got hit, but I never got hit, but there were also some situations, for example, when a classmate of mine came up to me in the fourth grade, and what I did was kick him and run away and go near the employees or the employee, and it was a defense, I would fall apart, mom, like that , but that’s it, and also the thing about trust, because I had several best friends there, and of those several best friends, I spent, I don’t know, a month with one, a month with another, something like that, and during that time I realized that the boy who the first time, the second time, right? David Pinto, no, but for example, Rodrigo, who was my friend for a long time, when I started hanging out more with João and I started being much better friends with João, I realized that he became kind of jealous and things like that, and Rodrigo, who I thought could never be mean to me, would never Telling on the teacher would never be bad for me, it ended up being and things like that, then when I went back to hanging out with Rodrigo, João would do the same things, maybe and things like that. I trusted someone, I don’t know, even if it was just to ask them to wait for me at the door of the house while I did my things, and then I went out and played with him during recess, he would walk away and leave, which is all the same, little things like that, but I thought it was a big deal and stuff, because if they asked me to wait, I would definitely wait. Now when I asked them to wait, no one would wait. I would get a little upset, but I realized that things like that happen, things like that happen, and when I get used to it, that’s how the world is, then that’s what you learned. And in the fifth grade, there it changed to the fifth grade, in the fifth grade it’s a totally different thing. We don’t have one teacher, in this case two, one for physical education and one for everything. There are several teachers, several teachers, several teachers, everything. And up until the fourth grade there was only one, right, one, in this case two, the physical education teacher and the normal teacher. And in the fifth grade you started to have seven, right? Seven teachers. I think it was even more difficult, David, this change from the fourth to the fifth grade with several teachers. No, it wasn’t difficult. I just think that there were teachers that I identified with a lot and had a lot of attachment to, and there were teachers that I had nothing to do with. And that’s good and bad. It’s good because many different kids who are not like me may like other teachers more, and there are many more teachers to like, but L also has many more teachers to dislike us and for us to dislike them. So it’s very different too. There are good sides and bad sides, because for example, if we get a bad grade or if we do something bad in a class, misbehave in a class, something like that, and a teacher gets upset with us, it will only be one subject that will be upset with us. It won’t be all of them. It won’t be always. It won’t be every day that I’ll arrive at school and the teacher will be in a bad mood with me. In other words, it’s very different. But anyway, what I learned from this year, honestly. I think there were good and bad things that at the time we thought were incredible, wonderful. And in the eighth grade which is next year that I come back I’m going to improve this which is cell phones and phones I’ll tell you the truth I love technology I love games I ‘m even known in the class for being a game boy if you show me any little game ah look here this little game on the phone I’ve definitely played that game I’ve played a lot of mobile games in this case mobile phones I’ve played almost all games almost all types of games and I know everything about the world of games which is really cool but from the fifth grade you can take the phone to school the cell phone in this case now with the new political parties these things are even changing they’re banning cell phones in most schools mine hasn’t been affected by it yet but ok only on Wednesdays but anyway from the 5th grade you supposedly can take the cell phone to school which for me was good and bad because I realize that I have many memories from the fourth year back fourth third first second I have at least one memory for each month of the year of each thing like that it’s a very funny thing but I realize that from the fifth and sixth years I almost have no memories I have memories I have memories what visits study we did what were important things for example lectures maybe we received maybe something specific something very funny that became the joke of the class only things like that I have memories and maybe having lunch with my classmates things like that already like that things from break things things of playing with my friends and things like that there are very few memories because because my memories really are me getting close to my best friend at the time who was Guilherme Pinto Gui I getting close to him then Gui let’s go let’s go let’s go a new update was released there was released a new little animal new thing new character and so on new attacks and so on very cool and that’s it we would get our snack we would sit in a corner where we wouldn’t get rained on and we would spend the whole break playing on the phone for about 15 minutes 10 minutes later we went to class, the new fifth grade, the fifth and sixth grade, and it was always the same cycle, and I have almost no memories of those two years. Excuse me for a moment. Davi, I mean Davi, he remembers everything that happened in the fourth grade, in the second, third, fourth, and in the fifth and sixth grades. He doesn’t have many stories to tell because that was when they were allowed to enter the school with cell phones, right? With cell phones, and from then on, they only play during recess. They don’t play anymore. They don’t run around, right? Davi, nothing happens. There’s not much story to tell. Look how crazy it is. They stay there playing games. So much so that I notice that when I go to school for a meeting. The students are outside. They’re all sitting in a group. Everyone has a cell phone. They don’t have that anymore. The students run around playing. There in the sun, enjoying the sun, enjoying nature. Everyone’s playing games. Look how crazy. Davi, at 13 years old, even he realizes that. And it was better. What do you prefer, Davi? This era of cell phones or without cell phones. I don’t know. I think maybe it would be good if it were if there was the same idea. If everyone followed the same path. same pattern as a classmate of mine Daniel, my friend Daniel doesn’t have a super amazing phone that works incredibly, he only has a tiny Nokia that he uses to contact his mother, only when his mother calls him, when his study center calls him, only when something emergency happens, he never stays in that, he is one of the most energetic boys, with a cool physique, who has more stuff and everything, who plays with everyone the most and is the most active because I never spend my time sitting down because I don’t have a cell phone, and why don’t you do like him? I’m going to start doing that in the eighth grade, not in the seventh grade anymore, but in the eighth grade I’m going to start like that, there we have two breaks and the little game that I usually play, things usually update after 10 o’clock, and then there are some passive things that I have to play a number of games per day to win free stuff, and then I have to play these games during the day, and then every break I’m going to play with my friends so that we can support these things, but to do it differently Since my first break is before 10 in the morning, I’m going to start playing with my friends. During the first break, my friends from the class, Gui, who always hung out with me, have grown up and stopped playing the game. I think he even uninstalled it. He barely uses his cell phone. Now, I didn’t use it much either. He only used it to play with me. Now, he doesn’t even play with me anymore. But do you think that your friends in the eighth grade are also thinking like you, or just you, because if you don’t have others who think like you, you won’t have anyone to interact with either? I think that during the first break in the morning, I’m going to leave my cell phone in the room. I’m not going to touch it anymore. I’m just going to be happy and play with my friends for 15 or 10 minutes. Because that’s something that exists nowadays that I don’t know. I remember the name exactly, I think it’s monophobia, if I’m not mistaken, which is the fear of not being connected to the news, not being up to date with everything that’s happening in the world of the internet. Things like that can also be homophobia, if I’m not mistaken, it’s not being able to stay away from your cell phone, that is, if there’s something you always have to know about the new update. If you don’t know, then I don’t. I have anxiety, so I can’t even concentrate in class because something super new is going to be released and I want to try it. Oh my God, here’s Davi, now tell me what the teachers are like in general. Let’s talk because the video is quite long, let’s talk a little bit about what the teachers are like, what the relationship with the teachers is like, your relationship, yes, basically, I even went to other subjects and everything, but okay, in the fifth and sixth grades I had, I don’t have that many memories, but I remember that this new thing of having several teachers was like a very different thing, it was like a fun thing, partially, something totally different from the first cycle. It was called the second cycle, which is the fifth and sixth grades, and it was basically very different. I don’t have much learning about it, but it really was very different. New model of several teachers that I was not used to yet, and in relation to the parents, right? There are about three meetings throughout the year with the parents, three to four meetings per year. And Davi’s class director, from the fifth to the sixth grade, praised Davi a lot. I’ve even said this here, right, in a video and told me that Davi made a difference in the classroom and I was very proud. They always spoke very highly of Davi at school, that Davi was always very well-mannered and this class director also praises Davi a lot for his education despite being influenced by other students who have negative behavior, right? According to Davi, he behaves in ways that are not so nice, right? Davi doesn’t let himself be influenced. Davi knows what is right and what is wrong and he is highly praised by the teachers, including getting good grades. Davi only gets grades of four and five. He doesn’t like to study at home. He studies a little bit, so when he has a test the next day, he does very little. I only study the day before. We pray, go and it works because Davi has a good memory. He pays attention in class when the teacher is explaining and he memorizes. everything and then he gets good grades, not that he studies, he’s not a nerd at all, he loves to play, he loves to be online with his friends, as he said, the boy of video games, he’s the boy of video games, but he’s smart, he’s very smart, he memorizes everything and his challenge continues to be his ugly handwriting. The only complaint from the teachers is his very ugly handwriting, Davi’s scrawls, but otherwise everything is fine, but I have a reason for all this happening. My handwriting isn’t the prettiest, because first of all, my handwriting isn’t that bad. If I want to, if I try hard, I can write in a way that anyone can tell I’m writing, but what happens is that here in Portugal, you don’t learn how to write in cursive writing in the first year, right? Handwritten writing, which is done without letting go of the pen. And that’s something you learn in the first year, something that in Brazil, at least when I was being taught , you only learned in the second year, and I arrived in Portugal at the end of the year, that is, I started the second year, everyone already knew how to write. Send me writing. I could. I could. I could have gone straight to the second year and then finished two months and went straight to the third year, just like my mother said, except that I repeated the first year, just those two months of adaptation and such , and that was really good because if I hadn’t repeated that time with my handwriting it would be worse than it already is because what everyone else learned in a year I had to learn in two months, so it’s justifiable, it’s just that what they always tell me is that when I go to take the 9th grade exam, the 12th grade exam, the 10th grade exam, super important exams, so it won’t be my teacher who will correct it, it won’t be someone from my school who will correct it, it will be, for example, the teacher from Faro, which is on the other side of Portugal, the teacher from the islands, or whatever. Someone like someone who doesn’t know me who will correct doesn’t know about mine doesn’t know that I had to learn all this in two months, they only know that they have to correct a test that Davi’s excuse is still the same, okay, they only know that they have to correct something that is almost illegible, it will always be the letter V because he has this excuse, right? Davi knows that I learned everything in 10 months, that’s all, okay, people, his excuse is this, I don’t know, there was no time to learn, he’s in his sixties, there was no time for him to learn how to write nicely, okay, it was about two months there that I learned, yes, well, people, it’s like that, right? Davi likes to talk, I like it, Davi likes it too, right, he talks too much, but the video is very long, I think that mothers still have a lot of doubts, right? If you want to know more about school, listen to Davi, what would you like to hear, leave it in the comments so that another one can watch another video, Davi will come and answer your questions, if you want to know something specific about school, okay, because Davi talked more about his experience with the students and what he’s learned so far, but maybe you have doubts and if you want to know, write down, okay, good people, leave your comment if you liked this video, if you like this type of video, I’ll bring my son here to talk about his experiences. Now he’s a teenager, right? He’s 13 years old. He arrived at seven, now he already has a deep voice. He’s already starting to get a little mustache and every time he comes here with me, he’ll look more like an adult man, right? He’s leaving pre-adolescence and entering adolescence, he’ll be transforming. Soon, he’ll be bigger than me. David is already older than me. So, that’s it, okay. A little baby arrived with a high-pitched voice and he already has a deep voice. That’s it. Leave your comment, thank you very much. Until the next video. If you’re the son who’s watching my mother’s little video, enjoy it. Go to my channel. It’s dasvi d. A sv i_line, it’s the dash below eight. Go there. It’s really cool. I post little game videos. You might like it. Let’s go. Kisses, guys. Thank you. Until the next one. Bye, comment. Okay, that’s it.